Tuesday, March 27, 2012

19 years!

A couple years ago, Mark and I read Donald Miller's A Million Miles in a Thousand Years.  In it was the following paragraph that we both loved:   

She said she married a guy, and he was just a guy. He wasn’t going to make all her problems go away, because he was just a guy. And that freed her to really love him as a guy, not an ultimate problem solver. And because her husband believed she was just a girl, he was free to really love her too. Neither needed the other to make everything okay. They were simply content to have good company through life’s conflicts. I thought that was beautiful.” 

It inspired us to each write a poem for the other for Valentine's Day last year.  On this day when we celebrate 19 years together, I'd like to put mine here.  (His poem to me is much better, but I'm way too shy to share it.) 

You are just a guy
A guy who loves jazz and bookstores
And bike rides and movies and German chocolate cake
And me

You are just a guy
With longings and fears and disappointments
You get knocked down
And you always get back up.

You are just a guy
Who knows how to get a laugh
With a well-timed joke or with the sounds of jungle ruckus
Or with a dance.

You are just a guy
Filled with immeasurable love for your sons
It’s plain and it’s real
And they’d pick to be with you more than anything else.

You are just a guy
Who forgives with unimaginable quickness
The list of my mistakes and my sins is long
But you keep erasing.

You are just a guy
Not my ultimate problem solver
I don’t need you to make everything okay
And that’s okay.

You are just a guy
It’s what frees me to really love you
Since I don’t need you to make my problems go away
And I don’t expect you to be perfect. 

You are just a guy
I picked you with whom to spend my days
And I’m content to have your good company thru the journey of life
Because you are my guy.